Dating for marriage is anything but a passive approach to finding a lasting love. Here are the top three ways to change your dating reality today.

1. Choose your attitude (about dating) and change your dating life.

Think about how you feel when it’s Friday afternoon before a vacation to a tropical resort: your mood is happy and elevated. Then think about how you feel just thinking about the end your vacation, knowing you’ll be going back to real life. Your thoughts impact your feelings.