When it comes to dating, women waste no time putting the blame on men in their relationships—or lack thereof. It’s men that don’t show an interest, men that are only looking for sex and men that avoid making a commitment of any kind—especially marriage.

But are men really the problem?

Popular culture has changed the way we think about dating. Once deemed by both men and women as the means to creating a lifelong marriage, dating has turned into an unfair game.

We have been bombarded with messages that portray a man as a two-dimensional, insensitive “commitment-phobe” who couldn’t possibly want to spend the rest of his life with just one woman.