Do you like and use affirmations? Pray? Meditate? Visualize? Journal?
And still wonder why you’re not in a fulfilling relationship?
I’m a huge fan of positive thinking.
I relied on positive thinking to cope with a traumatic and lonely childhood.
You know … the “it gets better” coping mechanism.
And life did get better, but I was still single and there’s a reason for that.
But before I tell you the reason, let me confess that I have spent thousands and thousands of dollars on self-help.
I soaked up every self-help book I could find by Louise Hay, Eckhart Tolle, Neale Donald Walsch, and Melody Beattie.
Better yet …
I joined Eastern philosophy enlightenment programs like …
Art of Living breathing
Silent retreats
Yoga
Energy healing, and
Reiki
{Clearing my throat} Oh, I’m not done yet.
I ALSO participated in mainstream programs like Landmark Education, Tony Robbins, therapy, prayer and retreats.
You name it. I did it.
All of these programs have an element of positive thinking and visualization.
But after thousands of dollars and a couple of decades I discovered one universal truth:
Positive thinking alone didn’t get me one inch closer to the man of my dreams.
And here’s why …
Positive affirmations operate at the surface level of conscious thinking and do nothing to shift the subconscious mind where my limiting beliefs really lived and ruled my life.
Both my brain and the universe called me on my bullshit.
Sure, I continued to date and — feeling alone, misunderstood, no real future. But dating didn’t get better because …
All the positive affirmations in the world don’t clear the blocks and limiting beliefs we harbor about ourselves.
You may not be aware of those beliefs, but I promise you, your brain and the universe are hearing them in Dolby surround-sound.
Here’s what I’m talking about.
You can’t secretly be concerned that because you have a child, no one will want you and somehow fix that by chanting “I am lovable” 600 times a day.
You can’t be divorced twice and chant “third time’s a charm” morning, noon, and night and expect results.
You can’t meditate away that soul-crushing feeling when you finally hear back from someone promising on a dating site only to find out they messaged you that they are not interested.
That’s not how it works.
“That’s not how ANY of this works!”
There’s a reason no one on dating sites are calling you back.
Inside you’re feeling that you’re just not lovable. Not wanted.
It’s like you’re two different people, smart and confident in your head – and saying all the right things – but emotionally your vibe isn’t where it needs to be because of subconscious beliefs.
Don’t believe me? Try this exercise. Say the affirmation:
“I am lovable, I am perfect as I am.”
Just sit with that for a second. Is there any part of you — a little teeny tiny voice that says:
“Or am I really?”
Because if it were true, you’d already be vacationing with your soul mate, right?
Does that give you tinge of sadness or doubt? If so, that’s GREAT news!
Wait, wut?
That’s right. It’s fantastic news!
Be grateful for that sad feeling – because that feeling is information you can act upon.
I’m going to repeat myself because it’s controversial.
Be thankful when your affirmations don’t work. Because you’re getting super-valuable information about where your subconscious blocks are holding you back.
And now you can confidently:
- Clear the subconscious blocks that have been dogging you all your life.
- Learn new dating skills instead of “winging it.”
- Choose affirmations your heart, brain, and the universe WILL respond to.
- Surf dating sites to find amazing marriage-minded dates who actually want what you want. . .that are on your page. . .and share your values. . . right where you live!
- Stop staying at work late because you don’t have to someone wonderful waiting for you at home.
- Have the right words to share what you’re looking for without fear of scaring someone off, you know how to end dates and not waste time with people you’re not interested in.
- Date to marry to find your true love because you know it’s possible and you’re clear about WHY things you were doing in the past – like being focused on positive thinking and “it’ll happen when it happens” didn’t work.
If you’re tired of affirmations that aren’t working.
If you’re “so over” wishing and hoping, and years of waking up alone and feeling unwanted, and are ready to find your perfect match now, register for a free one-hour strategy session and we’ll spend the most productive 60 minutes of your life get to your truth.
