Do you ever feel that the way you are just doesn’t cut it and that you should work to be more like others?
Have you ever heard yourself saying: “If only I weren’t so ______, I’d meet the person I’m meant to marry”?
In our superficial society, where fitting in and being a popular, outgoing kind of person is made to seem so important, it’s not uncommon for people who don’t fit this mold to feel like there’s something wrong with them.
I spent years trying to “fix” myself—trying to be someone worthy of love while pretending I wasn’t doing that. I wasted precious years of my life trying to be someone who I’m not, and it didn’t help me find the love of my life. (Click here to read about how I did finally meet my amazing husband.)
The other day I watched Susan Cain’s TED talk on introversion, and I just loved it because her hypothesis supports the fact that happiness is tied to embracing who we are—how we are built and our own unique talents.
It also supports the fact that to find love, we need to love ourselves as we are.
Cain makes an important distinction. . . .