Even if you only practice one of these new strategies you will create greater capacity for you to manage the discomfort of being emotionally unavailable and start moving towards a more open, connected and authentic version of yourself.
Here are some practical steps you can take that will put an end to your uncertainty and cause you to feel more positive about your dating journey in future:
Do you find yourself doing things you really don’t want to do and often saying things other people want to hear — not expressing your truth . . .to make other people happy?If you do, you’re not alone. It’s called people pleasing and it chips away your vitality and leaves you feeling exhausted.
Why is it that when something isn’t working we self-soothe? Even though intellectually we know we shouldn’t. While some of us eat, others drink, shop, avoid others, complain and avoid dating or become cynical. . . regardless of your path, it is a never ending cycle.
We all have habits. Maybe you bite your nails or drink two cups of coffee before leaving for work in the morning; or perhaps you’re always running late or can’t go a day without checking your email. Our habits influence our tendencies as humans and our tendencies influence the way we live our lives.
There’s just no way that you’ll meet someone who values, uplifts, and supports you in all those special ways you’ve been dreaming of if you don’t take actions to root out your negative beliefs and build up new ways of being in the world.
