“I keep dating the wrong person!”

Do you find yourself experiencing the same drama in each relationship or with new people that you meet? You find yourself saying “all men I date have a fear of intimacy, or end up treating me badly.” Or how about “all the women I date are just gold-diggers …”? When you find yourself in a steady pattern of the wrong flavor of men (or women), it’s because there is a subconscious vibration and belief inside of you that invites that personality type into your universe. And because you feel like...

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“I meet low-quality people on online dates sites”

Pfttttttt. I have two questions for you. Question #1 Would you call a classical pianist, the dean of a prestigious law school, the world’s foremost authority on chip technology, and a tireless advocate for our nation’s veterans low-quality? I don’t. These are all people who are on dating sites on any given day – like right now. Sure, everyone has been catfished on dating site by a man who lied about his height to a 5’11” woman who wants to date a taller man. Or a woman who used a photo from 25...

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“You got bad luck in love, Loretta”

One of my favorite movies of all time is Moonstruck. ♫ “When the moon hits the sky like a big pizza pie, that’s amore.” ♫ Cher plays Loretta who is afraid to get married because she has “bad luck.” Her first husband got hit by a car and died so that means she has “bad luck.” Her pop tells her not to marry Johnny Camerarie because she’s got “bad luck.” “Your mother and I are married 52 years, no one died. You’re married for two years, he dies. Don’t get married Loretta, you got bad luck.”...

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“It’ll happen when it happens” and 3 other myths about love

Why do we leave the most fulfilling experience on our planet – true love – up to “kismet?” Charting a plan to meet and marry the man or woman of your dreams isn’t desperate or pathetic. You don’t even book a vacation trip without a plan because. . . . . .it’s smart as hell. Things can go sideways really fast if you don’t. YOU are smart as hell. I wanted to share four myths and one major truth bomb about finding your soulmate – because not having a plan is still having a plan. . . it’s just a...

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Positive thinking alone won’t work (here’s what does)

Do you like and use affirmations? Pray? Meditate? Visualize? Journal? And still wonder why you’re not in a fulfilling relationship? I’m a huge fan of positive thinking. I relied on positive thinking to cope with a traumatic and lonely childhood. You know … the “it gets better” coping mechanism. And life did get better, but I was still single and there’s a reason for that. But before I tell you the reason, let me confess that I have spent thousands and thousands of dollars on self-help. I...

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